Wednesday, July 9, 2008

"Mommy Clicks"

What is up with the "mommy clicks" at sports...are we still in high school? Don't pretend like you don't know what I'm talking about. You arrive at your soccer, baseball, football and/or basketball games, scanning the field or court for your girls. You immediately rush over, big hugs...it's been a WHOLE two days since you've seen them! You find the perfect spot making sure to keep a safe distance from any eavesdroppers. Now the fun begins..."WHAT is she wearing? Can you believe she actually said that to me? Who does she think she is...shhh shhh...here she comes. "Oh, hi Mary...what a cute outfit!" Quick sarcastic smirk, glancing at your friends.

Then the conversation moves on to the therapy sessions. "I only wanted to go shopping and Bill told me I spend too much money. We got into a HUGE argument...I told him to sleep on the couch...NICE CATCH JIMMY! What was I saying? Oh yeah, do you think he was being unreasonable? I mean, he knows when I was growing up I never got anything from my parents, so every once in a while I should be allowed to go on a shopping spree." Followed by everyone's input telling you how ridiculous your husband is being.

I think you get the picture...and I am not excluding myself from the "mommy clicks," I have done my share. Now that I'm getting older I guess it gets a little tiring. Which leads me to today's events.

My "clicks" children have all quit football. This season I find myself searching for new friends. I make friends pretty easy, but I very rarely let anyone get past the surface friendship (been burned in the past.) I know most of the moms but not much past, Hi, how are you, stage.

I have to say that today I was happily surprised. My son, had a football passing league today...I got there early and was sitting at the top of the stadium...the younger players mom's came into the stadium and headed right up to where I was sitting. We all sat and talked together, a couple of mom's opened up about some difficult things they have going on in their lives. It's funny...one of the ladies who I thought was a little snobby throughout the years was actually VERY sweet and funny. How often do we judge others by how they look without actually knowing them? I guess it's human nature, but I'm glad that I have been put in this situation...once again forcing me out of my comfort zone!

No more "mommy clicks" for me.....


HANGIN WITH THE GIRLS



JULLIEN'S FOOTBALL PASSING LEAGUE

6 comments:

~Trish~ said...

Oh I couldnt agree with you more!!! Baseball season just ended and almost every game, I sat up in the scorebooth running the score board so I wouldnt have to listen to the other moms!!! I honestly dont think half of them ever even watched the game!! I have a few moms that I hang with who share the same opinion as us!!! haha!!

April said...

Wow, guess that's what I have to look forward too ha? Sounds like fun!

Veggie Mom said...

Did you ever see the movie "Mean Girls"? The Plastics exist even in Mommy Land! BTW, I'm pretty new to the blogosphere--pleased to meet ya!! I'm running a giveaway on my blog, so please drop by!

SoccerMom said...

Oh I have so been there too! And like you I make friends easily but there is still that one mom I can not crack and I am sure she talks about me behind my back. But really I could care less because after all I am there for The girl and her entertainment, strike that, I mean not her entertainment....LoL ~ Congrads on your new friends :o)

ann said...

same girls who were clique-ish in MS took it to High School, took it to college take it to the nursery - and now to the Mom-stands. I get snarky, so I take a book of crosswords.

Robin said...

Guilty, yes I have been in the mommy clicks but I was on the flip side as well where I was the new mom on the soccer/football field. Even though I am never one to care what people think, I do remember that awkward and uncomfortable feeling listening to them go on and on while I sat there watching practice..High school just never ends ;-) Great observations Lisa!